''How To Find A Godly Person''. The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines ''How'' to mean '' By what means, for what reason: Why, to what degree, extent, or amount. To be precise in determining the crux of this last session, it is evident in layman’s language that we are going to look at what ways or to what extent can a Godly person be found.

There are three characteristics that will identify a Godly person:

1. HUMILITY:

This word was derived from the Latin word ''humilis, meaning ''low''. That means it must be a person who recognises and accepts reality through open-mindedness to the truth i.e. no false pretence, just listening and learning. In a simple analogy, with a relationship, being willing to adapt, listen, be teachable, and accept the truth, not self-centered but building the relationship for the well-being of both.

Again, being low does not mean you should be quiet when things are not going well. Most people see correction in the face of misunderstanding as egoistic but this is a fallacy. Humility is not being daft, shy, quiet, and ignoring the truth in order not to

lose the object of my love: Be resilient to ensure the truth is told or expressed in love, no matter the situation surrounding what happened. Humility is often thought to occur in the absence of Pride. Pride manifests in people ''thinking they are better off, cleverer or richer'', for instance. On the other hand, in the absence of pride, you find humility, which sees no need for competition. In humility, you are nothing more and nothing less than the other people around you. A real laboratory test of a godly person who is humble is no matter the hurt, pain, and heartache he is ready to apologize though it is painful and later find a conducive serene emotionally stable atmosphere to discuss patiently matters that will affect the marriage or relationship (friendship).

Humility is not about hiding away or becoming a ''wallflower', but is about the realisation that your abilities and actions are not better or less. Humility is an essential ingredient in a godly person.

 2. CARING:

Godly persons do not play games. They pursue, court, and then marry you. This kind of godly wo / man is ready to give ear to your perspective and although there may be ambiguity in what is said, yet one is ready to sacrifice to go a long way in ensuring the other person is beaming with smiles.

It also said that a caring, godly person always stands as a securing wall of defence from external aggression. This type of person keeps their mind sharp and desires to be wise so they can make good choices. Challenges, setbacks, and flat-out failures will happen, especially in relationships. And they will test your spirit, love, and faith in the relationship or marriage.

Having someone by your side that knows how to care, show kindness and compassion is important for you and your family. Watch a godly person in time of stress, do they give up quickly?

Again this type of person is active and helps at home too.

· They are best friends.

· Always there for you

· Protective but never abuse

· Protect the husband/wife from insults

· Never disrespect one another no matter who is at the advantage.

· Respect their religious, cultural, financial, and social backgrounds.

· Never make you feel silly for what she/he believes in. 

· Romance, Touching, and lovemaking is the climax to the love they share.

· Giving of gifts, surprises, and giving random kisses throughout the day or hugging.

· Supporting your dream, goal, and vision is a great caring attitude.

· Focusing on all the good things and ignoring the things you do not like is ultimate.

· When one falls sick or needs the other, make sure you do it with all your best efforts.

· Looking after each other through sickness and health is a part of your marriage vows and not something to be taken lightly.

 3. GIVING: 

''A godly man is never threatened by the gifts of a godly woman” (Rick Warren). This area does not only fall within the concept of physical needs. It cuts across, TIME. Be it spending time together, or going out of their way all centred on the progression of the relationship.  Being in love is like solving the questions on an exam paper, some take a couple of seconds, some a bit longer and for some, it is like forever. Remember, relationships are like an examination paper. To pass it, you have to understand the paper. Similarly to make your relationship fly high, you have to understand your partner when it comes to ''GIVING, TIME, MANAGEMENT''. Giving and giving time to your relationship means understanding your partner's preference, emotional, physical, and financial giving, sharing perspective, spending time together, and most importantly respecting each other. All love stories are tales of beginnings. When we talk about falling in love, we go to the beginning, to pinpoint the moment of free-fall. No matter the predicament in this area, the godly person is not always starting over in giving, this time, he is not starting from scratch, they are both starting from experience. It is also said, do not wait for opportunities to create them. Never compromised by dignity and honesty.

In that same vein, do not wait for special occasions like going for holidays, wedding anniversaries, birthdays, and Mother's /Father's Day to come before spending time together and giving a gift to create them.

A godly Person is giving,

· He spares time to serve the wife or vice versa (Community, family, and friends). Greed and selfishness have no place in a godly person’s heart.

· Talents are not stored away for another day but used well for the peace of the family.

      · He is generous with his words.

      · He is quick to give encouragement, forgive and offer wisdom 

      · He extends kindness to all, no matter who they are.

      · He is generous in love, time, and money.

Finally, your future husband/wife is not looking for his partner at the local bar, falling down drunk, with his / her clothes hanging out. Forgive the candor here, but we love you enough to tell you the truth. Start thinking about what it is that you want in a man/woman and start portraying it in your own life. Don’t be in a hurry. Be patient. Purpose, Providence, and Destiny have orchestrated a divine encounter with your future husband/wife at the perfect time. Don’t rush it. Work on you, while you wait on him /her, just make sure they embody these three characteristics.

Written by Abigail Borquaye @ Healing wings support