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The importance of self awareness before love.

May 15, 2024
There is a mirror that never lies. It's objective and truthful and will reveal your true essence as you embark on a journey of love. This mirror will show you how much you matter and guide you to break free from deep-rooted misbeliefs, unchangeable relational patterns, and internal struggles that appear insurmountable. It's a mirror that holds the key to your growth and understanding of love. 
Despite what you have heard, what has been planted in your conscious and subconscious mind about who you are, what you are worth, and what others think about you, it is essential to understand you are wanted, valuable, secure, competent, beautiful, and called to be love, which only you can fulfil. Yet we must not unthinkingly see who you indeed are. 

Many false self-perceptions are deeply ingrained and often resistant to positive self-talk. However, identifying these misconceptions can reshape one's mind with truth. If embraced with humility and commitment, this process can redirect the course of one's life. Whether you perceive yourself positively or negatively, gaining a clear vision of your true self through this article will significantly contribute to developing your inner beauty, empowering you to take control of your self-perception and personal growth.

What is self-awareness?
It is the ability to accurately and
profoundly understand yourself objectively, recognizing your thoughts, feelings, strengths, weaknesses, values, and motivations. It is the capacity to objectively observe yourself, your thoughts, and emotions and identify your unique experiences, biases, and tendencies. Self-awareness is the foundation of personal growth, decision-making, and relationships (love). 

Self-assessments to consider:
1. Recognize your emotions and manage them effectively
2. Understand your strengths and weaknesses
3. Set realistic goals and expectations
4. Develop a sense of purpose and direction
5. Improve your relationships with others
6. Make informed decisions that align with your values
7. Develop emotional intelligence and empathy
8. Practice self-acceptance and self-compassion

Discovering self-awareness before loving again is essential for building a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Here are some steps to help you in this process:

1. Reflect on past relationships: Analyze your previous relationships. Identify patterns, behaviours, and emotions that were present. Would you happen to know what went wrong? What were your vulnerabilities and insecurities? Understanding your past experiences will help you gain insight into yourself.

2. Identify your strengths and weaknesses: List your strengths, such as your values, talents, and positive qualities. Also, could you acknowledge your weaknesses or areas where you need growth? So, as you know, Self-awareness involves accepting your strengths and weaknesses.

3. Practice self-reflection: Set aside regular time for self-reflection. This can involve journaling, meditation, or deep introspection. Ask yourself important questions about your desires, dreams, and values. Explore your emotions, fears, and insecurities. Self-reflection helps in understanding your true self.

4. Develop self-acceptance and self-compassion: Embrace yourself, flaws and all. Just so you know, nobody is perfect, and that includes you. Practice self-compassion by treating yourself kindly, forgiving yourself for past mistakes, and being patient with your growth.

5. Explore your passions and interests: Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfilment. Pursue hobbies, explore new interests, and discover what sparks your curiosity. This process helps you connect with your true passions and desires.

6. Seek feedback from trusted individuals: Talk to close friends, family, or a therapist who can provide honest feedback about your behaviours, blind spots, and areas for improvement. Please accept this feedback with an open mind, knowing it will help your self-awareness.

7. Educate yourself: Read self-help books, attend workshops, or listen to podcasts focusing on personal growth and self-awareness. Learning from others' experiences and insights can help you gain a broader perspective on self-awareness.

8. Practice self-care: Take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Prioritize activities that recharge and rejuvenate you. This could include exercising regularly, eating healthy, getting quality sleep, and engaging in activities that help you relax and find peace.

Remember, self-awareness is an ongoing journey. Embrace it and give yourself time to grow and change. With self-awareness, you will be better equipped to form a healthy and fulfilling relationship when the time is right. It is only then, are you able to love and be loved again through the lens of self-discovery