”The relationship is now a capital or networking of resilience, determination, purpose and great achievements’. After building the above pillars we are now ready to go by dissecting ”HOW TO RECONCILE”

1. BOTH PARTNERS MUST BE WILLING TO BE ON THE SAME PAGE:

This alone can take an ample amount of time, humility and a sense of listening to one another and effort to rekindle the relationship. Both individuals need to be willing to invest the necessary time and effort to rebuild the relationship. Please avoid, ” do not hide your feelings, be plain, clear and conscious about your choice of Words.

2. LANGUAGE / COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY:

If you want your relationship to be healthy, successful, loving without fear or blackmail you will have to be ready to talk to your partner honestly and without judgment. Good communication is a prerequisite for a happy relationship, so make sure to speak with and listen to your partner on a regular basis. This can be challenging with a history of one or both of you not feeling comfortable using your voice when you are hurt or angry. Silence can be deadly to relationships. For instance expressions like ” I realize that the last time we spoke things didn’t go well. The way you spoke I perceived you like…. / that, I saw the last time we had an argument this is what happened.  Talking and shaking your head makes me to feel like there is a fight” etc. 

3. WILLING TO ADAPT / EXPERIMENT AND EMBRACE CHANGE:

Perfection has never been a language of a healthy relationship. Nobody is perfect. The important factor again is listening to one another. Taking the spouse’s fears and needs into ultimate consideration. Embracing change is a matter of WILL. Don’t be afraid to shake things up and share new experiences with your partner. By having fun and enjoying some quality time together, you’ll see what made your relationship special to begin with.

In Conclusion, since there has been a disconnection for days, weeks, months or possibly years, there is a need in building trust in a relationship. Rebuilding it after a disconnection can be tougher, especially if the reason for the disconnection is infidelity. Still, it can be done if both you and your partner are ready to commit to making the relationship better, However overcoming trust  issues will definitely take some time. The WHY behind the infidelity then needs to be discussed which will be another topic to be addressed in the future. If you find yourself wondering if there is a way to reconcile after a disconnection in a relationship, sincerely apply the above fire-proof principles and you will see your love, and family life ignited with greater love, commitment, devotion and unity than ever before. 

You may also reach out to a professional ( Healing wings support ) to help you in this regard.


Healing Wings Support – Abigail Borquaye

 

 

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