Every man and woman has their own individual unique nature. To each of them it is their power house of ecstasy and secret. The distinctive desires of each are satisfied in different styles and manner of approach. There is a need for greater wisdom before one can settle each other. The basic fundamental ecstasy of the woman needs to be understood in various dimensions whether by communication, touching, kissing and even making love is not a one-way approach in the journey of marriage and love making.

Many men miss the mark in dealing with a woman because he keeps making the same error over and over by trying to deal with her as if dealing with his very own gender. Sex was made by our creator to be enjoyable so the man would desire it and again bringing the wife on board for unity in orgasm, and love making. Sex should not be something a man is coerced to engage in and vice versa.

Sex or love making is the most satisfying aspect of a man’s life in relationship (marriage covenant) to a woman: It is also a reason most men can be satisfied with their cheque and sex at home, and not be too concerned with much of anything else.

But, that will not satisfy the needs of a woman nor make her reach an orgasm. In the light of this, when men fail to recognize, understand or meet the unique needs of a woman, it can cause trouble for her and for him. Procreation may be a manifestation of manliness for some, but it is never an evidence of maturity.

Love is greater than sex. Love making has evidence and provisions that every man needs to comprehend. Sex is not a part of love when it is an expression of lust. Woman was made to be beautiful with all kinds of shapes, wonderful breasts and lips to kiss and passionately make love to in the spirit of unity as she reaches her orgasm. It is also of great importance to note that a woman wholeheartedly enjoys her ability to seduce a man and to exercise power over him through her seductive capabilities.

Some men have corrupted the natural beauty of woman by looking upon her as an object to be taken or brought in order to satisfy his own lust. Powerful  insight.  But it’s true. Men must learn to minister (explore the body of their wives) to the woman’s unique nature. Both singles and married people need to understand the nature of both sexes, but many do not even recognize their own uniqueness. Men also complain that they do not understand women, but often, they simply do not understand themselves more often. A woman’s uniqueness is her greatest appeal to a man-and his greatest challenge. Let us dive into only one way, channels and styles wo/men can begin to employ for an avalanche of romance and love making in its highest orgasm levels where both partners can love crazy because the language, exploration in the bedroom is sweeter than honey.

There are several of them, but I will only touch on the core point first. Later the other ones will be outline.


All sweet wonderful permanent communication in life must begin with knowing one’s communication strength especially in the area of romance, kissing, foreplay and love making. What I mean by communication is knowing the speed at which your wife/husband can connect to you. Be honest with one another. To communicate can also mean being naked in words, actions, love languages and physical touches. Don’t try to hide anything from one another. When you empty yourself, both can fill one another in sexual pleasure.


  • What can I do to raise emotional alerts in my wife/ husband’s sexual wires? 
  • What choice of words can I use to push that sexual passion within him/her? 
  • What type of sexual touches does she enjoy though not in bed yet? 
  • Is my wife in her mood swings and if yes, how can I bring her out of that world to my very own place of emotional attachment. 
  • Is there a need to change my patterns of initiating sex or love making? 
  • Can I begin to learn to hold hands more often with my wife /husband? 
  • One must exercise tolerance to allow emotional sexual tension to build in the other person slowly in heart and mind. 
  • Never confuse sexual intimacy with routine 
  • Focus on more affectionate touch than rushing your wife. 
  • Then ask again, in what way can I be emotionally vulnerable than just having sex.


Expressions you can use are listed below, though they are not the final say depending on the type of person you have in your life. I have come to study,  no woman can ignore the following:

  • Your hair looks great / I love the the style of your hair 
  • I love how passionately you kiss 
  • I feel so good when I am with you 
  • I can not wait to be inside of you, I love your sweet body.


  • I love the shape of your ……. so special and unique, that is why I am so much in love with you, this is the best gift ever. 
  • Your breast is so sweet and more than honey, hmm feed me like a baby and let me also go deeper and deeper into you, by saying this, you creat a world where your wife can open her legs for you to thrust into her.
  • I love the way you taste, more than vanilla ice cream (Expand ) ……… (that is knowing the type of ice cream or what she likes, this respect gives her a sense of honour. 
  • Uhhhh moan it up. As much as you want to make her scream, she will like to hear you say nice things to her
  • You’re so hot in that position. During sex women can spend a whole lot of time ”spectatoring” and exploring all the parts of the husband looking from a bird-eyes view, focusing on the next move to make the husband thrust into her. Keep the communication going.
  • Kissing: know the speed of one another – either by going slowly until you both begin to climax in higher speed.


  • Wow that was beautiful:
    So simple to say, but goes a long way to encourage another.
  • Thank you:
    Love making is the most precious gift a woman can give to a man. So say thank you every time. Never forget this.
  • I could just lie here with you forever. 
  • I love it when I am with you. 

In conclusion, later on in our session, I shall talk about the frequency of love making in a relationship,  regular sex prevents adultery. We shall also look into the wedding night, the honeymoon, pleasurable sex, dutiful sex, exciting sex, Orgasm, and common fears about sex.

NB: Try to practice this handy tools in the above and you will see a change in your love making, romance, foreplay and both will call for love each night.

By : Abigail Borquaye – Healing Wings Support

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